Psychic Secrets for Happy Holidays
What’s the use of being Psychic if you can’t even make your own Holidays happy? Well, I do make my Holidays happy and if there are any Psychic Secrets I guess they come down to a few principles that I have adopted over the years.
Psychic Secrets for Happy Holidays
First, is the adoption of an Attitude of Gratitude. Adopting this point of view means you will focus on what is in your life right now rather than living in a state of wishing for a different reality or missing what you don’t have. There is nothing wrong with wishing per se; it is how almost all human accomplishment begins. ’Wishing” only becomes problematic when we develop a toxic attachment to what we don’t have and that includes the presence of people we love but for whatever reason cannot have with us at the Holidays. I see so many perfectly lovely Christmases and Hannukahs ruined because someone or other cannot be there to celebrate with the rest of the group. The secret to not letting an absence spoil your celebrations is not to impose attendance as a condition in order for you to be happy in the first place. It seems that no matter how disappointing past Holidays have been, someone – usually the hostess – envisions a perfect version that is certain to happen THIS TIME. The trouble with this approach is that it does not take into account the autonomy of each invitee. There is nothing worse than ‘duty invites’! No one likes to attend a social event to avoid being ‘guilt-tripped’. Celebrations cannot be commanded and choreographed; they need to be somewhat spontaneous to be at all enjoyable. So when you plan a family celebration, make attendance optional but replying to an invitation mandatory so you can still do plan meals and accommodation.
Another way to get around the ‘attendance mandatory’ issue is to ask each invitee to come up with an idea for something fun for the group to do: a wacky treasure hunt, an improv skit based on ideas that the guests suggest on the day or a role play in which the audience has to guess who the performers are representing (other family members or characters from famous stories – Alice in Wonderland, Moby Dick…whatever). The point is to ALLOW not to COMMAND participation.
The second issue that can get in the way of enjoying your Holidays is disputes over who will do what. Get around this by cutting pieces of paper and writing on each one a chore or preparation that need to be done and let everyone pull a stub out of hat or bowl. That way, “Fate” decides, not the hostess and no one is laboured with tons of chores whilst others skip off to enjoy themselves.
The third issue that can de-rail a Holiday celebration is competitive giving. One way to avoid this pitfall is to have people pull stubs that say male/female age 1 to 4, 5 to 10, 11 to 15, 16 to 20 and then go by decades; 30ish, 40ish, etc. and set a price (no more than…$25.00 or whatever). The receipt must accompany the gift in case an exchange is needed. People are free to give whatever else they wish but each person gets one gift that comes from “Fate”. Actually, the secret of having Happy Holidays is the same as it is for any other time: don’t try to force conformity on anyone. Invite participation and as far as possible let people contribute from their strengths. Where there is overlap, trade off for the next celebration where the ‘other’ cake baker can shine. The only Psychic Secret to having Happy Holidays is not to try to make everything perfect or to solve other people’s problems for them. If two guests don’t get along, don’t throw them together; honour each one’s individuality and let them find their own way to co-exist.
A Psychic Gift
Oh, yes, and one more thing. If you are still stuck for a gift for someone, why not give that person a Gift Certificate for Psychic Reading? Whether they view it as a bit of giggle or a real opportunity matters not. The point is that once given, it is the recipient’s choice to arrange the appointment and I do the rest.
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